These words remind me of the title of a Beach Boys song. They are also a concept I came across recently that resonated so strongly for me in terms of working towards a new goal. While this may sound like wishful thinking, if you put this phrase to use in inching your way forward in a particular direction, it actually makes a whole lot of sense. So, instead of saying, ‘I wish….’, which has negative fed up/give up undertones, you are opening the door to universal support in a positive way by saying, ‘Wouldn’t it be nice if….?’
I tried this technique as I went to bed and battled to fall asleep because my list of Wouldn’t it be nice if….? kept just flowing on and on, versus the wishful thinking model that make me feel negative and helpless. When I do Wouldn’t it be nice if….? I can instantly follow with listing all the benefits if “it” came to pass vs I wish which often is a dead end thought that ends in, ‘that will never happen’.
The Wouldn’t it be nice if….? feels like there is positive intention behind it, that I am part of the process, that I will do the work that is necessary on my part, but that I know there is a whole lot else that is coming out to play to support my intention. I am not the only one or source of energy required to make my dreams and goals come true.
One must cast vision ‘out there’ to draw in support, to get everything aligned and pulling in the same direction, without forcing it to come to pass. It’s an interesting concept to experiment with especially if you are a person who is used to being in control and making things happen around you. Start with something small and then move onto bigger plans and ideas and see what happens. This can relate to anything: business, personal, relationship and even physical matters. You need to choose something that you want, eg:
Wouldn’t it be nice if I discovered this to be much easier than it’s ever been before?
Wouldn’t it be nice if my body would co-operate with the mental picture I am holding?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I had a really productive day at work?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I was able to complete my book?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I had a brand new talk offering for 2017?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I was able to uncover my patterns that have made me successful?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I could attract an overseas speaking gig?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I could meet someone who’s just run across something that really worked for them, that could light a fire in me?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I could be more present with my loved ones?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I found an exercise regime that really worked for me?
Wouldn’t it be nice if I had more stamina and energy?
Here are some pointers to bear in mind though:
- Do not expect instant results – goals can arrive slower or faster than you expect
- Drop your picture of the perfect packaging your goal must be delivered in – you may be limiting yourself by your own mental picture
- Putting it out there in Wouldn’t it be nice…? packaging creates a collective alignment, orchestrating things that you could not, even if you tried
- Understand that you are part of a bigger whole and getting your cells, your body, your energy, other people and opportunities into alignment, starts with your thoughts (if you are religious, your prayers)
- Be curious – experiment
- You don’t have to control the whole process, just do what you need to do
- Learn to trust the process
Wouldn’t it be nice if….? is a gentle approach to asking and receiving that goes far beyond wishful thinking. You still need to do the work and direct your energy and effort, but you invite so much more in to support you on your journey.
“By softly playing this game, what happens is that you hold yourself in this place of alignment…… So, if you can’t get something off your mind [a goal, dream or idea], you almost have to force yourself to choose pleasant, Wouldn’t it be nice if….? thoughts,” say Esther and Jerry Hicks, authors of Ask and it is Given (Hay House, 2004), the book from which I chanced upon this concept.
So, fellow speakers, start making your list of Wouldn’t it be nice if….? this holiday season. See what comes up for you and then see what happens next….
PS. Wishing you a safe and festive holiday season. Remember to diarise your first chapter meeting for next year! Dates further down in this newsletter. And, while I am talking about new beginnings in this editorial, do read Shelley Walters wonderful book review about Necessary Endings!